Self-Confidence Booster!
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Hi everybody, happy Thanksgiving. I am sending you and yours, every good wish for a happy Thanksgiving. And I also know that it’s the holidays, and a lot of us are feeling stressed. And, some of us are going back to work, and a lot of us are getting triggered by our social anxiety. So I’m coming to you today, because I want to give you a strategy, that’s going to boost your self-esteem, boost your confidence, and it’s going to be a game changer in your life. I’m incorporating positive psychology, and also leading-edge neuroscience. And it’s really easy, this strategy is simple. It’s quick, and it works. How good’s that? So, as you know, gratitude’s a game changer for me. It’s my spiritual practice. And, it also moves the needle as far as health and wellbeing. So, what I want you to do, and I’ve already taught this, it’s about count your blessings, and some of you already know this.
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At the end of the day, you go home, and you peruse your day, and you say, what were three things that went well and why? And you write them down, three things that went well and why. But I want you to add this magic sentence. And the reason that went well was, because I am. And the reason that went well, is because I am. Let me give you an example. Say, you go to work, and you surprise a colleague with a cup of coffee, Mary. And she’s really happy, and delighted, and it went well. So you go home that day, and you’re writing your journal. I bought Mary a cup of coffee. And the reason that went well, was because I am caring, or I am thoughtful, or I am kind or generous, any of those, or all four of them. You keep going, however you feel that you are.
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Now, why is that important? Well, if you’ve ever done affirmations, a lot of times you know, they don’t work. And, we always feel bad about ourselves, because they’re not working. But here’s the answer to that. A lot of us have unconscious beliefs that we’re not even aware of, and the brain will not accept something that it doesn’t believe in. But, when you add this magic sentence, and the reason that went well is because I am… It’s the truth. You are giving the brain proof, because you did buy the cup of coffee for Mary. Isn’t that great. So, here’s another example. Because, we now know in positive psychology that, the giver and the receiver, both share the same benefits. So say someone’s giving something to you, say, you’re at work, and you have a deadline. And you’re afraid, you’re not even going to make the deadline.
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So John, a colleague comes in and helps you. So at the end of the day, you write in your journal. John helped me make my deadline, for the product that I had to give to so and so. And the reason that went well was because I am respected at work, or the reason that went well is because I am appreciated by John. However you feel, it’s the, I am, that is the game change. It’s not even what you do. I already know you do enough, I know who you are. But, you are going to learn so much about you, and who you most deeply are, and how you grow, and love, and contribute every day in your life. So this is why it’s so exciting. You’re going to learn skills, you didn’t even know you had. You didn’t even know they existed with you, because you’re going to start finding out, as you do this process, that, oh, I am creative, I am insightful, I am a good listener. And you’re going to be stunned by your accomplishments.
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So, please give this practice a go. Three things that went well today, and why. And the reason that went well was because I am. Okay. That’s my gift to you for Thanksgiving. I love you so very much. If somebody’s struggling, please send this along, or please teach them this practice. It’s going to be a game changer for their life. Stay safe. I love you. And I’ll see you soon. Bye.